March 30, 2025 Great News Update!

Mel is walking again, and even doing a bit of dancing!
Take a look at the video!
Mel’s health began to seriously deteriorate several years ago,
and he was diagnosed with various ailments
from which he seems to be healing and doing much better.
After years confined to walkers and wheelchairs,
he’s again up and about on his own!


Remembering Gary

Gary Nixon and Mel White, photo of them sitting together

Dear Friends, I want to thank you
for the outpouring of love and support
you have shown me since we lost Gary.

Gary Nixon, my husband for forty years
and Soulforce partner and co-founder
had his funeral and life celebration service
on November 14th, 2024, at
All Saints Episcopal Church in Pasadena, California,

The following day, friends and family and Soulforce partners
celebrated Gary’s Fiesta Celebration Brunch
at our home in Palm Desert, California
with Mexican food,
margaritas, and a live Mariachi band. 

VIDEOS

 Watch
Special 13-Minute Video Production of
Gary’s Fiesta Brunch at Gary’s & Mel’s Home
on November 15, 2024.

Watch 
Gary’s Memorial Service
at the All Saints Church in Pasadena, California
on November 14, 2024.

 Watch
Gary’s Celebration of Life & Reception.
at the All Saints Church in Pasadena, California
on November 14, 2024.

Gary Nixon and Mel White, Mel woke up on August 12, 2024 to discover that his husband and life partner, Gary, had died in his sleep.

I’d like to ask you to make a gift to Soulforce
in Gary’s
memory,
as Soulforce has been such a big part of our lives.

I spoke about that, and our life together,
at his eulogy at his memorial service:

If you read Stranger at the Gate,
you know I spent thirty years trying to

shame my sexual orientation.

Our All Saints rector, George Regas,
was the first to say
“It can’t be changed, so quit trying,”
and we did.

I spotted Gary at a Requiem Mass at All Saints.
Gary was a blond, blue-eyed

baritone in the Coventry Choir.

We met at All Saints, courted at All Saints,
and when same-sex marriage became legal
we rushed to All Saints and were
married.
The first gay couple to be married legally
in this wonderful church.

Let me tell you something about
the man I fell in love with.

Gary and I were both victims of the
anti-gay policies of the Christian churches,
and after we
married,
we vowed to do something to end those policies together.

We created Soulforce to train volunteers
in the principles of relentless
nonviolent resistance.

Soulforce has been working
to help end religion-based bigotry
for the past 25 years.

We have organized, trained,
and marched across the states
and even at the Vatican.

Last year, Soulforce International worked in 13 countries,
while our free online Spirit resource library,
in 7
different languages,
was recently downloaded by individuals
in 38 countries
and 42 states.

That was the professional Gary.
He did all the work. I got all the glory.


Now about the personal Gary.
He was timid. He didn’t like to speak up,
even
in a small group,
but when he did it was almost always memorable.

He was tough, strong, loving, and kind.
He never complained and he showed his love
through action 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

He could keep a secret.
The cards and letters I’ve been getting
express
gratitude from people all across
the country that I’ve never met,
that he was
sending letters and postcards to,
and making phone calls.

One of my favorite memories is of
Gary with a little girl named Elizabeth.
Her parents brought
her to every Soulforce action,
and she fell in love with Gary
right from the
beginning.
She had Lou Gehrig’s disease and even when
she spotted Gary
with hardly any use of her arms or legs,
she would manage to climb out from
her stroller
into Gary’s arms, saying, “Gary, Gary, Gary!”

I want to thank my family. From the day
I met Gary they included him in
every event.
And then I want to thank his friends and family,
who knew him
as a quiet soul
who refused every opportunity to be upfront.
What Gary’s
done is changing minds and hearts
around the world.

More importantly, Gary, I want you to know
that I found you here at All
Saints
and for almost 40 years your love
has made all the difference.
Now
you’ve come home, Gary,
and your body will remain here
in the place you
love the most.
On August 12, 2024
your spirit joined all the other saints.
At All
Saints Episcopal Church in Pasadena
you keep bringing hope and healing to the world.

I miss you Hon.
And I’ll see you when I’m sitting
in the front row at another
majestic Requiem.
You will not be singing baritone in the choir.
You’re one of
those saints now.

Requiem aeternam dona eis, Domine:
Eternal rest give unto him, O Lord,

and let Perpetual Light Shine Upon Him.
Amen.

DonationsIn lieu of flowers for Gary, please donate to Soulforce!


 

Download Clobber The Passages Ebook (Free)

Mel’s latest book (2023):
Storming The Gate!

Storming The Gate - New Book by Mel White (2023)
Storming the Gate picks up the story
thirty years after the publication of 
Stranger at the Gate (1993).

Mel and his husband, Gary Nixon,
founded Soulforce and recruited an
army of volunteers to help end the lie.
Their nonviolent protests
made headlines across the nation.

These are the heroic and sometimes hilarious stories
of Mel, Gary, and their volunteers
being harassed, arrested, tried, and jailed
for doing battle with the lie and with the
Catholic, Protestant, and Evangelical liars
who know the truth but refused to tell it.

It’s available now in Kindle or Paperback. 

Click here to order

Books By Mel White

Stranger At The Gate - To Be Gay And Christian In America by Mel White

Clobber The Passages - 2021 New Book by Mel White

6 Angry Evangelicals - Plot to Divide America, Elect A President and Undermine Democracy - by Mel White

Miracle Of Molokai by Mel White: Author, Film Director and Activist

The Jonestown Massacre - What We Must Not Forget! by Mel White

Grace and Demion by Mel White: Author, Film Director and Actrivist

Resist Extemism - Pocket Guide for Resisting by Mel White: Author, Activist and Founder of Soulforce

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Video and Television Productions by or featuring Mel White: Author, Film Director and Activist

Justice Videos by Mel White: Author, Activist, Director

Be A Faithful Dissenter - Mel's Sermon

Rhetoric Of Intolerance, An Open Letter to Pat Robertson

LGBT ENCOURAGEMENT Videos by Mel White: Author, Activist, Director

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How Can I Be Sure God Love Me? (Sermon By Mel White)

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Read Mel’s prize-winning blogs

Rev. Mel White Interview on Southern Poverty Law Center Website - August, 2021

Heather Cox Richardson - Biden assuming role of FDR for Today's American Citizens

 

 

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